CB #17
June 26, 2008
Oh man! Well we went for the radiation treatment for Dave’s ribs and we got hit with a bunch of stuff that needs to be done for his treatment to start on Monday for the Myeloma. The upshot is that it was my first moment of frustration and anger given that I’m leaving tomorrow. Anyway, we got it all sorted out and taken care of and then Dave confessed he didn’t want me to leave yet, so I’ve rearranged my flight to leave on Sunday AFTER Hudson gets here. This will allow me to “hat” him up on everything and get the two of them situated before I leave. Dave felt much better about this new plan. So my packing party was cancelled until the following weekend.
Thanks for the messages. We REALLY enjoy reading them!
Love, Lori
PS Some of you have contacted me “worried” that I’m delaying my departure. Its really nothing to worry about. Dave is just still adjusting to all this and the meds and everything and he was wanting me to stay longer. Its totally understandable and totally fine. No big deal. Please don’t worry. The upsetting stuff today was just a bunch of paperwork to start the cancer treatment and we weren’t prepared for it. Once they knew the scene, 3 staff overcame all barriers to make it possible for Dave to start his treatment as scheduled on Monday.
This was such a weird experience. Dave and I had been doing great and bumping along just fine and then we head into the Cancer Center for the first time and were bombarded with people and paperwork and it was overwhelming. I kept saying, “But I’m leaving tomorrow! I can’t get all this done by…” Evidently as we figured out later, every time I said, “But I’m leaving tomorrow!” Dave got more and more agitated. We were not a pretty picture. We were snippy and angry and we really didn’t understand why, it was downright embarrassing! We didn’t make a very good impression. Once we got out of there and had a chance to talk, Dave was able to articulate his frustration that I was leaving. He also had lost track of time and didn’t realize I had to “close” on the Brookeville House on Monday! So the compromise was for me to wait a day for Hudson to get there, so Dave wasn’t alone and vulnerable. This would be the beginning of many such marital episodes on this journey. As one wonderful Myeloma patient, Bart from Tennesee said to me in LR (Little Rock), “Yeah, it TESTS ya!”
Yes it certainly tests! very often one step foward then two back! but love will out…great posting Lori.